Article by MRDA.
A week or three back, a Guardian article on gerontophiliac serial rapist Delroy Grant came to my attention (hat-tip to my Facefuck friend, Miss TC); written by the uniquely monikered Hadley Freeman, the article, titled “Rape is not a compliment”, employs binary thinking and a few other fallacies in the service of the following argument:
Once again, in the case of Delroy Grant, the public seems unable to accept the idea that rape has nothing to do with desirability.
Rolling my eyes, I remembered the ever so popular slab of sloganeering her argument alluded to:
Rape is not about sex: it’s about power.
At least if we’re talking about the prime motive of the perpetrator.
However, as ridiculous as I find the “Rape…power” shibboleth, I think I understand how it came to be and why people so frequently and fervently throw it around. No one (beyond some kinky fucker or two, perhaps) enjoys being thwarted and overpowered; no one enjoys having their wishes ignored; their will overridden; or being used and discarded like cheap loo roll. All such experiences, however, will be painfully and intimately familiar to a victim of violation.