I’ve often pissed off social conservatives by defending the rights of cultural groups who favor these kinds of “alternative” family arrangments to do their own thing, just as I have pissed off leftists and progressives by defending the rights of cultural groups who favor polygamy, arranged marriages, and child brides to do their own thing as well. One thing that many proponents of “limited government,” “rights,” “anarchy,” “tolerance,” etc. do not understand is that the dispersal of political, economic, and cultural power automatically means extreme diversity.
A historic example would be church/state separation. When the medieval Catholic theocracy was abolished, the diversity of religion in the West more or less became infinite. Not only are there the many thousands of variations of Protestantism, sectarian forms of Catholicism, and variations within Orthodoxy. There are also Quakers, Shakers, Mormons, Jehovah’s Witnesses, Scientologists, Satanists, atheist Sunday Assemblies, deists, Wicca, Odinists, Moonies, the gay Metropolitan Community Church, the racist Christian Identity religion, the ultra-homophobic Westboro Baptist Church, and the ultra-liberal Unitarians. And Christianity and its offshoots and heresies still have to share space with other major traditions like Islam, Hinduism, Judaism, Buddhism, Zoroastrianism, Sikhism, Jainism, Shintoism, Taoism, and Confucianism.
Anarchism in actual practice would be the cultural and political equivalent of this. As Alejandra de Agosta wrote, anarchism is “a decentralized federation of philosophies as well as practices and ways of life, forged in different communities and affirming diverse geohistories,” resulting in “infinite diversity in infinite combinations” (Gene Roddenberry) or merely “assorted weirdness” (RJ Jacob).
Three isn’t a crowd for these dads.
A gay, polyamorous California throuple made history in 2017 when they became the first family in the state to list three dads on a birth certificate.
Their reproductive journey and legal battle to become fathers to Piper, now 3, is detailed in “Three Dads and a Baby” (out March 9, Cleis Press), written by one of her dads, Dr. Ian Jenkins.
Jenkins and his partners, Jeremy Hodges and Dr. Alan Mayfield, don’t see their family — which now also includes their son, Parker, 1 — as unusual.
“The fact that Piper has three parents is just not a big deal. I have three parents myself — my mother, father and stepmother — and no one thinks anything of it,” Jenkins writes in the book. “Some people seem to think it’s about a ton of sex or something, or we’re unstable and must do crazy things. [But] it’s really remarkably ordinary and domestic in our house and definitely not ‘Tiger King,’” referring to Joe Exotic’s wild gay throuple featured in the buzzy Netflix docuseries.
Categories: Sexuality and the State